The road to caring for parents got a bit more bumpy today. We went to the hospital to check on my mother-in-law and found her suffering some from delirium. We actually expected that to happen. What we weren’t expecting was the news that Assisted Living would not provide enough care. We have to go with a skilled nursing facility. Ugh. Talk about bursting our bubble. Neither one of us want to be the one to tell her that one!
We have found that things can change daily when parents get older. We also have found that our confidence on how to handle everything can change daily as well. There are days when I have all the confidence in the world that everything is going to work out just fine. Then there are the days when I’m looking for a hole to climb in. I don’t know which way to go. I think it is called being exhausted.
With all the bad things that have come our way, you would think that the first thing we would do is want to reach for a drink. It has actually been the opposite. I haven’t wanted to touch a drop of alcohol. That was until today. We said forget it and went out for wings with a drink. That felt so good. We ate in silence so we wouldn’t accidentally bring up anything that we were trying to forget. It was my first margarita in over a year. It was heaven and I found out my alcohol tolerance has gone to nothing!
I think that is what you have to do. You have to allow yourself a chance to sit back and enjoy something that you used to love doing. When you allow yourself this opportunity, truly allow yourself the chance to enjoy it. Sit there and soak it up. Then the answers to your problems start to seep into your brain. As we left the restaurant, I knew exactly who we needed to talk to in order to find the answers for caring for my mother-in-law.
So that is what you have to do when faced with challenge after challenge. The fog starts to roll in because you are feeling overwhelmed. You have to find a calm, safe place to allow your brain to shut down for a few minutes. Then casually ask for guidance to yourself. In the quiet will come the solution or the starting of a solution. It’s the only way to deal with the fog.
I better start getting ready for bed. Tomorrow is a long day. I have to take my father to the doctor, my mother to the doctor, and check on my mother-in-law at the hospital. Just another normal day!